Ally feels consistently insecure about where she stands in her close friendships. Despite the care her friends provide, Ally frequently questions if they care about her and wonders if they will stop answering her phone calls. Her friends express interest in her life, and have provided emotional support during rough transitions, such as Ally losing her job last year.
Friends may find your behaviors confusing, or interpret them as demanding when you’re expecting constant inclusion, or immediate text message responses.Īlly sees her closest friends several times a month for dinner or coffee. Lovers may become tired of providing so much validation, only to find that you’re still displaying high-levels of relationship insecurity. The fears can alienate lovers and friends, because they persist despite evidence to their contrary. However, if your fears around being left become chronic, the fears themselves can create what you’re most afraid of. There’s something very human about having a good thing and not wanting it to go away.
Fear of abandonment: Many adults have fears that the people closest to them will leave.